For an upcoming ward youth summer activity, a permission and medical release form created by the church needed to be signed. This form, copyrighted by Intellectual Reserve, Inc., includes a second page regarding “conduct at church activities.” No pornography, no vaping, no shoplifting, no threats to harm self or others, etc. If a youth participate in any of the prohibited activities, “leaders at the event or activity will speak with you, your parents, and your bishop or stake president. These leaders may decide to send you home immediately.” Stuff that sometimes needs to be spelled out explicitly now and then.
But I found the form’s first admonition disheartening:
“Please note that Church activities are not the time or place for romantic behavior or for conversations and actions that distract from the purpose of the event or activity.”
President Oaks needs to have a conversation with some form writers and those who direct them if he is really concerned about young adults not marrying. Habits of mind leading to lots of unmarried 26-year-olds have taken hold. Learning to engage in initial stages of romantic behavior should be listed somewhere as one of the purposes of bringing youth together for activities. Chewing tobacco and carrying guns at a youth conference should be discouraged. Flirting should be encouraged. We who believe in chastity should be the ones teaching romance as something good and distinct from unchaste actions that we teach people not to mire themselves in. We should exercise faith that those we call young men and young women can learn to talk to one another and experience attraction in the Lord’s uplifting way instead of Satan’s degrading way. If we don’t believe we can teach that . . . prepare for tiny Primaries, consolidated wards, and fewer stakes of Zion.



