Natalism Unsexy Answers

We can clearly see that our birth rates are dropping precipitously. If we are to fix the problem, there are two groups we should think about. Those who don’t want children and those who feel unable. Trying to fight a culture obsessed with sex and money is mostly going to be a mostly fruitless endeavor. Go ahead and call to those people, but don’t waste most of your time on them. Rather, we would do better to focus on the second population and enable those who do want kids and feel unable.

Enable and assist married people to have children:

• Car Seats – racket that does more to reduce fertility than actually save children. Get rid or reduce it severely.
• Housing costs
• Hospital birthing costs
• Child care costs? I am loathe to accommodate this one, but it might be necessary, at least in the short term.
• Reduce Child Protective Services, or refocus them so children can roam more wildly. An over-parented child is one who will feel at home with an intrusive Big Brother Govt.
• Encourage family formation by stop having the government favor women. If the government does everything a husband does, that is immoral as porn because it destroys the need for men and women to join together. Too many safety needs isn’t charity. It is enabling. 

Preserve existing Families:

Divorce, in practice, if not in law, favors women. I can’t tell you how many women I have met that are happy just living off alimony and child support payments, mostly the later. Divorce laws have been unfairly biased for a very long time. Correcting this would give men a lot of support. 

China just made it difficult for a divorcing woman to take her husband’s wealth. I am not sure they are wrong. This one is tricky, because we have to balance women who have been married many years and then set adrift (legit need), with women who want to exploit the situation, because they know they will be unfairly advantaged. 

The vast majority of divorces are initiated by women. If we can introduce a level playing field, we can preserve some marriages. 

Dating Culture:

This is a tougher nut to crack. I am proud enough to steady the ark, but I haven’t a clue how to fix this. If people are not dating, they aren’t getting married. From everything I hear, this is a toxic hell, for everyone these days, except the top 2% or so. It was hell when I was single, but that was at least partly because I was a single father and my height puts me closer to Gimli than Legolas. How would I fix this? Genuinely not sure, except to say it is increasingly important to live so that we can have miracles in our lives. Abraham was able to find a wife for his son Isaac, even though he was practically the last righteous man alive. Jacob managed to do it under equally challenging circumstances. Joseph likewise had an unconventional life path, that was only possible because he was righteous and had great faith in God. We need no less. This is a spiritual battle, so perhaps here a spiritual solution is best. 

I probably would not encourage dating apps.  

I don’t think it is as simple as complaining about hypergamy. Rather, it is porn-brain, or if you prefer, Brains Over-Stimulated by Dopamine Enabled by the Internet. Men have learned the hard way that what porn promises, it can’t deliver. Likewise Social Media and dating apps. They promise every woman a prince or a wealthy finance bro. Dating apps showed an endless array of men. Whatever the faults of dating apps, women had plenty of attention and variety. May be not the attention or variety they wanted, but it suggested there were a lot of men out there. If they could just find the right one. There were always more. Perhaps, just perhaps women are just beginning to wake up (maybe? hopefully?) to the realization that it was all a lie. It was a deception by people who wanted their time, attention and money. 

This may not solve all answers, but if we can get rid of some of the more significant roadblocks, hopefully we can help families form, retain, procreate and raise children.