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Knot Yet

March 18th, 2013 by John Mansfield

Reading complaints a few weeks back that too many Latter-day Saints marry before completing courses of higher education, I felt concerned that a natural corollary of that is that people who don’t complete a college education shouldn’t marry at all. Perhaps the unfolding 21st Century for many will be less like the 20th Century abounding in middle-class families and more like earlier ages when bunk houses, barracks, brothels, servants’ quarters, convents, and monasteries absorbed many whose economic limitations put marriage and children out of reach, and those who want a different future will have to choose paths of their own bucking prevailing trends.

The National Marriage Project at the University of Virginia has put out “Knot Yet: The Benefits and Costs of Delayed Marriage in America” There is such discussion of the Great Crossover (mean age at first marriage passing age at first child), and a running theme is that delayed marriage plays out differently for the two-thirds of the nation that doesn’t complete a college degree.

A summary can be found at Washington Post: link. Coming at the topic from another angle, perhaps you’ll enjoy “Settle Down” by Kimbra. Or perhaps you won’t, if your tastes in song and dance don’t run that way.

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March 18th, 2013 16:44:38
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John Mansfield
March 19, 2013

I notice that one of Knot Yet’s authors, Brad Wilcox, coauthored with Jeffrey Dew “The Date Night Opportunity: What Does Couple Time Tell Us About the Potential Value of Date Nights?” The phrase “Date Night” isn’t quite as obvious as “Family Home Evening” would be, but it was enough to make me curious. It turns out that Dew teaches at Utah State and has a BS from BYU. I found no hints of Mormonism from Wilcox, but he does have a way with titles:

Soft Patriarchs and New Men: How Christianity Shapes Fathers and Husbands
If Momma Ain’t Happy: Explaining Declines in Marital Satisfaction Among New Mothers
What’s love got to do with it? Equality, Equity, Commitment and Women’s Marital Quality
Soul Mates: Religion, Sex, Love, and Marriage among African Americans and Latinos
No Money, No Honey, No Church: The Deinstitutionalization of Religious Life Among the White Working Class


Adam G.
March 19, 2013

Wilcox is some variety of evangelical.

Marriage at a normal age–i.e., in college, before getting your BA, BS, MA, MS, and PHD, plus assorted postdocs–is a sound idea for most, but these days it takes a little outside support to make it work. The Church provides much of that. Parents should also help as they can.

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