As a gender fluid person of trans, I prefer not to be sentenced as a man.
Love is not best considered as a feeling, it is not necessarily something at the forefront of consciousness. For many people, their deepest love is something which structures their life, rather than being at the front of our conscious deliberations for most of the time. Some (I am one of them) are very expressive of love – but this is not a necessity; and some very loving cultures and families and marriages do not go in for statements, hugs or tears.
My understanding of the absolute necessity of loving God above all else is metaphysical rather than psychological – that without this, all other loves (including the love of Jesus) lose their meaning and function.
The supremacy of our love for God is that it makes all other loves possible – it makes other loves a matter of eternal significance.
-thus Bruce Charlton.
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A good take. Here’s a quote:
While Yiayia’s rules of modesty might seem arbitrary, change some from one culture to another, and even change some over time, what mattered was that the rules were clear. This is essential because young women naturally compete with one another for sexual attention, and knowing the exact location of the line between good girl and slut is required in order for them to effectively compete.
In a sense this isn’t all that different than auto racing. While NASCAR, IndyCar, Formula 1, etc. have different rules about what is permitted, what matters is that the rules are understood. In order to compete effectively you have to go right up to the line but not over it. But with modesty there are no longer any clear rules. Each woman finds herself trying to go up to what appears to be the line based on what the other women around her are doing. This has been going on for several decades, and not surprisingly it has resulted in a continuous drift of what is deemed acceptable.
Marriage is theater. It is the stage and the back stage. It is the play and also the players. (more…)
I like hard-nosed, no-nonsense spirituality. I don’t like guff.
Marriage is at the core of Mormon spirituality. Marriage and dating, are also, in this culture, swaddled in yards and yards of guff. (more…)
“I don’t know. No reason.” You have just been asked why you wore that shirt today. You don’t recall. Impulse maybe. It doesn’t matter and it’s not worth talking about.
But if your choice did matter, there should be a reason. When you knock at the gates of heaven (who has ears to hear, let him hear), when you are asked “why have you come?” you should have something better to say than “I don’t know. No reason.” (more…)
I’m probably the last person to realize that the word sex, meaning copulation, originally came from sex, meaning man and woman. (more…)
Those words would be as good an answer as I could give to the question originally addressed to Conan the Barbarian: “What is best in life?”
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I wrote this post in my head, wide awake at 3 AM in an uncomfy bed.