Just one more reason we need integrate more women into combat. The exclusion of women’s perspectives lead to this kind of hyper-masculinized brutal violence.
Being on the pill while forming a relationship generally made women less happy with the relationship after they quit the pill.
The pill appears to make women prefer more nebbish men. Widespread hormonal contraception may be an evolutionary shift to a bunch of Y-chromosoned uptalkers.
There is no real defense of “pick-up artistry” from the standpoint of someone who takes the idea of community, much less the idea of morality, seriously. Trawling bars and nightclubs, plying young women with “cold openers” and drinks, securing one night stands and upping your “notch count”—these are empty and hedonistic pursuits. They’re disfiguring to the souls of everyone involved.
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Even in the crassest forums of the PUAs you can occasionally see glimpses of impulses worth salvaging, worth encouraging even. There are people attracted to “game” simply because they are tired of being sadsack losers who have no control over their own fortunes, romantic or otherwise. You have young men groping for some sense of personal agency, of personal efficacy. That’s not an unworthy gesture.
-thus John Glanton
What’s the difference between boyhood and manhood? (more…)
Sometimes, one wonders if the big, grey trumpeting mass in the middle of the room may not possibly be an elephant?
To question whether the Sexual Revolution has had something to do with the decline of marriage is like wondering whether the French Revolution had anything to do with regicide.
A change in how people approach sex, relationships, and family has changed how people approach sex, relationships, and family. After all, it’s called the “Sexual Revolution,” not the “Sexual Fad That Didn’t Affect How People Live.”
-thus P.E. Gobry.
Men Have Four Great Loves
Men have four great loves.
The love of a man for a woman;
Of a boy for his mother;
Of brother for brother,
Of comrades together;
And the love of father and son.
Love is not best considered as a feeling, it is not necessarily something at the forefront of consciousness. For many people, their deepest love is something which structures their life, rather than being at the front of our conscious deliberations for most of the time. Some (I am one of them) are very expressive of love – but this is not a necessity; and some very loving cultures and families and marriages do not go in for statements, hugs or tears.
My understanding of the absolute necessity of loving God above all else is metaphysical rather than psychological – that without this, all other loves (including the love of Jesus) lose their meaning and function.
The supremacy of our love for God is that it makes all other loves possible – it makes other loves a matter of eternal significance.
-thus Bruce Charlton.
A good take. Here’s a quote:
While Yiayia’s rules of modesty might seem arbitrary, change some from one culture to another, and even change some over time, what mattered was that the rules were clear. This is essential because young women naturally compete with one another for sexual attention, and knowing the exact location of the line between good girl and slut is required in order for them to effectively compete.
In a sense this isn’t all that different than auto racing. While NASCAR, IndyCar, Formula 1, etc. have different rules about what is permitted, what matters is that the rules are understood. In order to compete effectively you have to go right up to the line but not over it. But with modesty there are no longer any clear rules. Each woman finds herself trying to go up to what appears to be the line based on what the other women around her are doing. This has been going on for several decades, and not surprisingly it has resulted in a continuous drift of what is deemed acceptable.
Marriage is theater. It is the stage and the back stage. It is the play and also the players. (more…)
I like hard-nosed, no-nonsense spirituality. I don’t like guff.
Marriage is at the core of Mormon spirituality. Marriage and dating, are also, in this culture, swaddled in yards and yards of guff. (more…)
“I don’t know. No reason.” You have just been asked why you wore that shirt today. You don’t recall. Impulse maybe. It doesn’t matter and it’s not worth talking about.
But if your choice did matter, there should be a reason. When you knock at the gates of heaven (who has ears to hear, let him hear), when you are asked “why have you come?” you should have something better to say than “I don’t know. No reason.” (more…)