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Wicked Parenting Traditions of Society

July 09th, 2017 by Zen

This article makes an interesting thesis, that the way children are being raised now, makes them more accepting of an authoritarian society, because they never had the free time, or freedom, to do as they please. If they have always looked to adults for direction, if they haven not learned anything else, then they will continue to look to others, such as government, when they are older.

One important foundation of freedom are found in childhood play and children learning to act.

Is American Childhood Creating an Authoritarian Society?

I have had an inchoate feeling that our nation’s philosophy on parenting is largely as unhealthy as the immoral society that spawned it. This is one manifestation of that.

 

 

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July 09th, 2017 20:34:44
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Bookslinger
July 9, 2017

What parenting? All that stuff is done by schools and the media now.


Ivan Wolfe
July 9, 2017

My guess is that it’s all supposed to be ironic and hipster cool or whatever, but I find it quite disturbing the number of students I see wearing T-Shirts with “OBEY” emblazoned on them.


Zen
July 10, 2017

Bookslinger,
Actually what I see is two distinct parenting styles. On one hand, you have the hands off approach and you have the hands on (both hands, gripping tightly) approach. It is the Uber-hands on that is associated with helicopter parents and micromanaging.


Huston
July 10, 2017

As a public school teacher of nearly two decades now, I can affirm that your thesis is correct.


MC
July 10, 2017

Zen,

I’m not sure if this is what you alluded to in your follow-up comment, but I think the author of this piece is confusing two very different parenting styles and lumping them together as “authoritarian” parenting.

“Helicopter parenting” is usually associated with middle to upper-middle class families who micromanage their kids’ lives so as to give them a 15% greater chance of getting into Harvard.

Meanwhile:
“Those who believe that is more important for children to be respectful rather than independent; obedient over self-reliant; well-behaved more than considerate; and well-mannered versus curious, were more than two and a half times as likely to support Trump than those with the opposite preferences.”

This doesn’t sound like “helicopter parenting,” it sounds like old-fashioned (and yes, somewhat more authoritarian) parenting that is much more common among working-class families who haven’t gotten the memo that stern parenting is on the outs.

In other words, I guarantee that the average Ivy League parent, if asked, would choose independent over respectful, self-reliant over obedient, and curious over well-mannered. Yet we’re regularly told that the Ivy League simply abounds with the survivors of helicopter parenting.

Of course, it may be that working class people are simply more honest about their parenting style. Maybe helicopter parents claim that they want self-reliant rather than obedient kids, but their actions say otherwise.


Vader
July 10, 2017

“Those who believe that is more important for children to be respectful rather than independent; obedient over self-reliant; well-behaved more than considerate; and well-mannered versus curious, were more than two and a half times as likely to support Trump than those with the opposite preferences.”

I find this paragraph problematic as well. Is being obedient really the opposite of being self-reliant? Or well-behaved the opposite of considerate? Etc.


Ivan Wolfe
July 12, 2017

“Really, people? You can’t have a good summer without a pentagram bikini? What is it exactly about satanism that’s so intriguing to the kids? Is it the eternal damnation or the terrible makeup choices?”

https://pjmedia.com/parenting/2017/07/11/whats-with-all-the-satanic-crap-everywhere/

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