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Whither the Sociality?

April 29th, 2017 by Bookslinger

If my memory is correct, 30 years ago, people came to church 15 minutes early and socialized. Local leaders had to remind people to socialize in the hallways and foyers before coming into the chapel proper, so that everyone could be quiet and reverent in preparation for sacrament meeting.

Now, it seems as if everyone who doesn’t come early for leadership meetings, arrives at the chapel at the last minute. There are exceptions, who are usually the older members.

What’s it like in your neck of the woods?

Have people forgotten how to socialize face-to-face? Is all socializing done online now?

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April 29th, 2017 12:40:11
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Naked Rat
April 29, 2017

The same lack of socializing happens in my current ward, too, it seemed to coincide with an increase in mobile phone ownership.

In my opinion, ‘online socializing’ is an oxymoron.


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April 29, 2017

Nah, there’s tons of socializing here. Bishop has to calm everyone down when he gets to the pulpit, sometimes they ask people to quiet down five minutes before.


Ed
May 1, 2017

Agree (to a large extent). Seem to recall in my youth a half-hour mingle following church (at least that’s how long it took my teenage self to drag my father out of the building). Now, except for those with meetings or choir practice, the building empties out awfully soon.

My current ward used to put on lunches in the gym after church once every month or two. Attendance died, and so did the custom…


JRL in AZ
May 2, 2017

I remember my mother socializing FOREVER after church. We were always late, so we didn’t socialize before.

Now that I am the dad, we are usually barely on time to church, but we spend several minutes after church visiting.

On the rare occasions when we have been early, there have only been a few people visiting. They are all old.


Zen
May 3, 2017

I struggle with getting the family to church on time, but yes, I have noticed the change in sociality, not that I am a great example.

This reminds me of an interesting article that I read.

The biggest threat facing middle-age men isn’t smoking or obesity. It’s loneliness.
https://www.bostonglobe.com/magazine/2017/03/09/the-biggest-threat-facing-middle-age-men-isn-smoking-obesity-loneliness/k6saC9FnnHQCUbf5mJ8okL/story.html

The money quote is “When people with children become overscheduled, they don’t shortchange their children, they shortchange their friendships. “And the public health dangers of that are incredibly clear,” he says.”


aardvark
May 3, 2017

I’d echo many of the comments so far….no one (but the oldies) arrrive early enough to socialize. However, we have a healthy amount of socializing after church.

Our building is one of the models where most of the classrooms are accessesed through the carpeted “cultural hall” / gym space. Effectively our gym is the main avenue for circulation in the building. So unlike in the ward I grew up in, where the gym was dark and empty on Sundays (except for priesthood opening excercises) our gym is full of life and vitality for a good half hour or more at the end of our meetings. When we first moved here it drove me crazy that the gym was laid out like this because reverence is really hard to maintain when you spend most of your time in a gym like space. But I’ve started to come around to it because it is the only real socializing our ward does together anymore…and if that means we have to put up with rowdier kids, well then I guess it’s worth it.

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