Junior Ganymede
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Mutually Worthy

April 20th, 2017 by G.

We are all slapping SPDI heartily on the back. His latest is even better than his normal high standard of work.

Wisely and eloquently, at root he makes the very simple point: men won’t prepare for marriage if there aren’t worthy women around. And vice versa. We have moved from a cooperate-cooperate to defect-defect.

What I was groping for, but didn’t quite grasp, was the importance of young people trusting that the opposite sex is also preparing for marriage.

For parents, its trusting that other kids parents are also preparing them for marriage.

One very strong definition of community that transcends race and language and all sorts of things, is the group of people whose kids you expect your kids could marry. Ancestral and blood ties, in other words, are often prospective.

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Bruce Charlton
April 20, 2017

“One very strong definition of community that transcends race and language and all sorts of things, is the group of people whose kids you expect your kids could marry. ”

Well said – that’s it.


radiobeloved
April 20, 2017

> the group of people whose kids you expect your kids could marry.

This kept me in the church when almost nothing else could.


Andrew
April 20, 2017

You see the same thing among the political elite, in a way, though for love of power rather than love of family and God.


seriouslypleasedropit
April 20, 2017

Praise from this quarter is worth more than most. Thank you very much.


JRL in AZ
April 21, 2017

Thank you for the link. That was an excellent piece. My thinking about this has been less sophisticated – I have just worried over the years if my kids will be good enough to marry one of the Larsons’ kids. You know, the Larsons – every ward has one. And if none of the Larsons are available, will there be enough quality marriage partners still? All we can do is build the best kids we can and hope everyone else is also.


Ben
April 22, 2017

‘It is exactly the kind of thing I imagine the Adversary would rage at as “unfair.”’

Too good.

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