I was in my mid 40’s when I came back to church in the early 2000’s. Since then I’ve occasionally met flawed people with both obvious and non-obvious problems or challenges, though the exact nature or cause of their problem/challenge was not always clear. Either immediately or at some point after meeting such a person, it occasionally dawned on me … “Oh, no. I have/do that too.” And later… “Ahhhh. So that’s why people hate me.” And later… “Eeek. I’m disgusting.”
This has been the Lord’s gift for two reasons. It has been in coming back to church and seeking the Lord that I met many of those people, sometimes in response to specific promptings. And… as the poet said (going by memory and using modern English) “Oh what gift the giver give us, to see ourselves as others see us.”
This correlates to a hallway conversation that I overheard over 30 years ago: “If someone else’s flaw/shortcoming really bothers you, just gets your goat, it means you have the same problem.” There is much wisdom in that. It took me too long to understand the mechanism of how/why it works that way.