No-Fault Divorce

Thank you.

It’s true. The HuffPo article, though, I think makes a few missteps. I can say that my ex (a stay at home mom) was not hit very hard – she benefited from no-fault. When I lost my job, she suddenly realized she could divorce me, she didn’t have to prove any fault on my part, and regardless of my financial situation, I would have to pay her lots and lots of money (temple covenants be damned).

If she had to prove fault, we would still be married and the kids would be a lot better off.

3/4ths of divorces are initiated by women, so the HuffPo writer claiming no fault hurts women more than men is delusional. Men get screwed over.

If you want to see this in all its graphical glory, take a look at The State of our Unions, pg. 64.

Per the law of unintended consequences, it is marriage itself that is taking the hardest hit. Within 35 years, give or take, marriage itself could be relatively extinct.

Marriage will not become extinct. It is too deeply rooted in basic human nature. However, there will be serious damage. Including the extinction of those cultures that denigrate marriage by cultures that do not. Pure sexual license is one of the Gods of the Marketplace, while demographic reality is one of the Gods of the Copybook Headings.

Having said that, I will add that twiceuponatime is half right. His bitterness over his failed marriage is obvious, and my own experience leaves me sympathetic. But while most divorces are, in fact, initiated by women, and the women involved obviously believe they’ll be better off for it, or they would not file, I suspect most find that the divorce does not quite work out how they imagined.

It is a rare divorce that leaves anyone better off. I daresay only a divorce that results from a prolonged and apparently irredeemable relationship that destroys a person’s dignity as a human being helps anyone. You will recognize the language and its source.

According to “A Book of Mormons” by Wagoner and Walker, Brigham Young had six divorces, and more left him without obtaining an official divorce.

Statistically speaking, both men and women are more unhappy after divorce, or at least just as unhappy. Women in particular turn out to be markedly less well off financially after the divorce.
Children are worse off in every way.

If divorce were a chemical, it would be classified as extremely hazardous and buried way under acres of concrete and a blizzard of regulation.